Sun and Rain

Laugh and the world laughs with you...cry and you cry alone.

How true is this saying?, think of all the laughter you have shared with friends, lovers and family, countless minutes or hours....now think of the times that you have been alone and cried. You could believe this phrase means that people are only with you when you are happy, and when your sad they desert you. but this is not always the case. Laughter is infectious and needs others to make it work, it also heals, if you are a little down and then join a group of friends you will find you feel more alive, you smile you laugh and you talk. Think of all the laughter therapy groups that have sprung up over recents years, but there are times when we need to cry and we are not necessarily always alone, there can be people supporting us but we do sometimes need to cry alone. To weep is a personal action that sometimes we need to do in private, a release of pain or heartache, a healing of ourselves. Recently I shut myself in the bathroom and cried for almost an hour, I needed to be alone although my partner was in the house, but he was unable to cope with that need, in that hour I had released some of what had been building up for the last two years, how essential had that hour been, now I´m back to laughing and for sure in the future I will need that time again, and I will probably do it alone but it isn´t because people do not care but in some circumstances they feel unable to help or know what to do to make you feel fine again. The sun is our laughter and the rain our tears.

Opening our hearts

Raise me , illuminate me, guide me and protect me
Take away the obstacles of my spiritual life
Take away the veil of ignorance (Señor Krishna)

Sometimes it can be be very difficult to live a spiritual life, it takes dedication. Our everyday lives are so busy and our minds preoccupied, that, for some it is hard to take time for themselves. If we open our hearts and become more spiritual then we begin to understand our lives better. We start to discard things that aren´t important to us, and our values change.
He who will close the door on selfishness and open it to love and compassion, will have crossed a valuable bridge, that will lead him onto a spiritual path. We never stop learning, so as those that choose to walk this path, take your time, stop and understand each lesson that´s offered.

We are all worthy

We need silence, patience and the ability to reflect, and tranquility to calm our nervous tremors or insecurities. Time to reflect apon why they raise their heads and how we can control them. Reflect apon times when nervousness or insecurity has taken control in a situation and what appened. Write down 2 or 3 incidences and reflect apon why you allowed them control, it´s difficult and we think that we would never allow them to take control and influence our life, but we do and they take hold and influence all that we do. Read what you have written, understand why, and discard the paper. Concentrate on on your strengths and values, and what you have to offer...build on that inner strength daily...for we are all worthy, different and have much to offer.

Seasonal Prickles

"Well, you know that I love to live with you,
But you make me forget so very much
I forget to pray for the angels
And the angels forget to pray for us. "
(Leonard Cohen)
It has been a time of fiestas and giving gifts, eating our fill and enjoying ourselves, but it´s also a time when conflict raises it´s head for some. An excess of alchohol, or a sadness about people no longer with us can trigger problems, if it´s not understood. The excess of merriment can be toxic, and perhaps we forget the real point of celebrations. Those loving relationships can fire into anger especially if the people involved have histories or other families. Sometimes one demands more of the other without considering their needs. Pent up thoughts are aired, and words are spoken that cut like a pointed sword ...... hard to retrieve once spoken...and the hurt buries itself deep within our soul....emerging as a memory at different times. Don´t allow the excess of merriment to absorb us to the exclusion of all else. "Pray to your angel", don´t forget to remember others or they may not remember you. If we answered ourselves honestly, how many of us felt a little hurt by words uttered or an action shown this festive season.

Sorry

Sorry is such an easy word to say, at times we use it and it is not necessary. Those who know and love us should understand that maybe a sudden outburst or when we shut ourselves away, is normally for a reason, the need to shed some tears to empty our souls of whatever plagues us, or to suddenly explode to release frustrations, those that really know and love us will understand and allow you to weep or vent those pent up feelings by not taking it personally. Those who are unsure of us , may take it personally or not understand, thus creating a distance between us. We apologise in our lives for many things and this is a good act for those times we hurt or offend others. However we should not feel the need to apologise to take a little private time, to be quiet and think, or to remember and weep...its a cleansing of the soul that each and everyone needs to do from time to time. Those of us who can´t maybe need to find a way to rid their inner self of toxic lifestyles or events, then they will gain an understanding of the importance of these times to ourselves in our private space with our private thoughts. Never say your sorry for allowing yourself to weep.

LOVE IS NEVER HAVING TO SAY YOUR SORRY

solutions

Problems and difficulties are part of life´s path. At times we feel there is no solution, we feel depressed and unhappy. This does not help our situation, when these times appear in our life we should place our confidence in a solution. There is always a solution, it may not be exactly what you want, but a form of solution is better than drowning spiritually.

A solution allows you rid yourself of a heavy load and regain your breath to continue your path.